Originally, this post was going to be about being thankful, in celebration of Thanksgiving...but something really touching and surprising just came my way and I can't help but respond to it! But before I continue, we must always remember that just because there is a day titled Thanksgiving does not mean that the other 364 days of the year you get to forget about it's lessons. I believe that holidays are meant to be reminders throughout the year to live the lives we are called to! Christmas, Thanksgiving, Valentine's Day, New Years, even Halloween! They all represent qualities ranging from giving, family, love, being thankful, creativity, and always working to change yourself for the better! So whenever you come across a holiday look at it is as a reminder rather than an obligation to do something you normally wouldn't.
Okay, so I think the best way to talk about what just happened to is to show you what was said,
"Hey I just stumbled upon your
blog...it is really good! Ummm this may be a little awkward considering I don't
think this is an advice blog...but I can really relate to this post. I'm in
junior high and I am bullied because of the way I dress. I guess it is too
"gay" or "girly" or w/e. Idk, I have been questioning
myself for a long time, and all of this hate makes a specific path seem dark
and lonely...I guess I just really want to hear what you think......I am sorry
if this is out of your realm, you don't have to answer this, but if you do I
would be really happy! :)"
This was a comment on my post Sexual Healing. If you haven't read it, click the link to get some reference to the comment.
Let me just begin by saying that this is a motivation blog, but also a place to find comfort and acceptance for who you are! So by definition -- this is also an advice blog. Also, I would like to say that I commend you for having the bravery to ask someone for help, that is the first step to get out of a tough situation like this. I am also humbled that you decided to look to me as a person for help! Honestly, I think the best way for me to help you out is to let you know what I did to get out of my dark time. First, stop second guessing your own decisions! Your clothing is YOUR clothing, if people don't like it then that is their problem. Don't allow external factors dictate how you feel about yourself internally! You are beautiful just the way your are and just because there are people who aren't mature enough or educated on the matter of self expression, doesn't mean you should stop dressing the way you feel comfortable. I realize Junior High is a tough time to discover yourself, but by the looks of it, you seem to be halfway there -- and that is saying something. When I was in Junior High I had absolutely NO clue as to what I was doing or who I was, so the aspect of bullying made it extremely worse. I think the second most important thing is to look at who you are allowing to influence your emotions, are these people really helping you achieve your own greatness or are they bringing you down to the lesser? While it is never easy to walk away from people you consider your friends, you also can't walk away from your own destiny. Find people who are going to accept you for YOU...that may seem impossible, but it isn't! If you have a good relationship with your family -- start with them! Then, you could move to finding new friends at school, or outside of school! There are billions of people in this world, so never feel like you are alone! :) The final piece of advice I would give to you is if you are questioning your sexuality -- don't beat yourself up about it or feel like you will be forever alone! Your sexuality is a part of you, and it should never be something you feel should like you need to hide! Maybe right now you still have more to figure out, but don't be afraid to explore your options -- there are no wrong answers to discovering yourself! :) Whether you decide you are straight, gay, bi, etc. it all doesn't matter! There is a community of people out there just like you, and there is an even greater group of people here to support such as myself! Never feel alone!
I really hope that some of this helped, and if you would like to get to know me personally, add me on Facebook or start emailing me! And if you ever feel like your problem is getting to aggressive, you can call this hotline 24/7 for professional help! 800-442-HOPE (4673) And if your situation brings you physical/mental harm be sure to tell your parents or a teacher/counselor at your school! Stay blessed, and remember to always love yourself even when the rest of the world doesn't see your beauty! <3
Here is a song to lift your spirits! It is called Design by Tori Kelly. I have shared this song before on here, but i think this will really inspire you if you look at the lyrics in the description. I hope that your situation gets better and you begin to love your own design because you are beautiful -- no matter what anyone else says. <3
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