No Boundaries November: Bridegroom/Love

This weekend I had the opportunity to have time to myself and think about life, where I am going, just enjoy my own company. This is something I normally cannot do, so when I get the chance I pounce on it. In this time, I decided to watch Bridegroom, a movie I had been dying to see for weeks. This movie brought me to a hysterical sob. It struck me at a very personal spot. This movie is powerful beyond belief, and everyone should find the time to watch it.  Go buy it, watch it on Netflix, find it somewhere and become educated on the age old story of true love. 

Just so we are all clear, I am a believer in love. I am a believer in finding that person that makes you feel like life has so much more to offer. That person that makes your eyes gloss over from the high of euphoria. That person that makes you smile even when you want to throw a pan at their head. Your soul mate. I believe that love does not have a label. It is not just an emotion -- it is an ability. You exercise your ability to love when you connect with that special person. You exercise your ability to love when you make lifelong connections with your closest friends. You exercise your ability when you promote love for others.

Bridegroom is a movie about two men who found their purpose of life through each other. Two men that were each other's saving grace. They found each other at the most perfect time, and created the most perfect connection. Unfortunately, life dealt them some terrible cards, (this is not a spoiler) and one of them lost their life. From there, situations became more tense as the surviving partner tried to commemorate the others life at the expense of a family unwilling to accept their son's sexuality. A family unwilling to accept their child.

If you have followed me thus far, you know that I am person of Christian faith. I believe in God. But I don't believe in preaching hate, or not allowing love to run rapid through the universe. As the age old saying goes, God is LOVE. Love is not just something meant only for a man or a woman. It is a human thing. It is an ability meant to keep us closer to the greater. But for some reason, there are people who ridicule and attempt with their every bit of self to destroy other human beings for being themselves. That may seem harsh, but that is what you are doing when you shame someone for just being them. There are thousands of children right now struggling to figure themselves out, just trying to catch a break. I was one of those kids. I had an entire group of people telling me who I was, who I could love. And because of this, I almost took my own life. I could not bare the idea of being what they screamed as they stomped me into the ground. I couldn't bare the idea of being a walking sin, a disgrace to the world. That is what people have to feel because they are afraid of accepting who they are.

We are beings of love. We were created through love, whether it only be for that moment or an eternity. We are all put on this earth to figure out this lifelong mystery of love. It is beyond me how people can openly cast out others for trying to discover the meaning of life -- to love. We are supposed to love when we walk into our workplace. We our supposed to love when we embrace our families. We are supposed to love when we come into contact with things we cannot explain. We are supposed love. Loving each and every person for who they are is hard, I know this, but we cannot stop others from discovering the beauty that is life. We are supposed to raise each other up in our times of need. We are meant to climb the mountaintops and throw a rope down to help the others behind us. I understand that homosexuality may not be something you support, it may not be something that you want to be a part of. But let me just say that while you have the luxury of showing public displays of affection, legally binding yourself to your love, and being protected by law, other human beings are denied such simple constructs.

I guess what I really want to drive to you all with this post is that life is hard. Hell, we all have our struggles, getting up in the morning can sometimes be the hardest thing. But one thing we should never have to struggle with, is accepting ourselves. That should be the easiest task of all. Be the change in this world and just spread the love. Homosexuality is a topic we all may not understand, but just because we do not understand, does not give us the right to beat down a group of people that is already struggling. As someone who has been on the other side, I am telling you that what you find as harmless mockery can be the most harmful blow you can throw. Just remember that we are all beings of love, just trying to achieve our programming. We are programmed to love, and there is nothing we can do to stop it.

We must raise each other up, even when life gets hard. We must raise each other up in times of need. We must raise each other when it feels like there is no hope. We are the problem AND the solution. Spread the love that this world needs.